Kuv tsis tau pw ua ke rau pem 10 xyoo

I haven’t had sex for over 10 years

 

Powered by Guardian.co.ukNo tsab xov xwm hu “Kuv tsis tau pw ua ke rau pem 10 xyoo” tau sau yog Pamela Stephenson Connolly, rau tus saib xyuas rau hnub ib hlis ntuj nqeg 21st 2015 08.00 UTC

Kuv yog ib tug pojniam 46 xyoo uas tsis tau muaj poj rau pem 10 xyoo. Qhov no yog yeej tsis tau lub tswv yim, tab sis kuv yuav nyam lub vajvoog perpetual: Kuv txhawj lubneej txog li cas kuv yuav piav qhov nov rau ib tug tswv cuab neeg thiab ntev mus nws mus, heev tshaj qhov nws tau. Kuv tsis xav nyob ntawm kuv lub neej tsis muaj kev sib deev thiab nyiam es paub tas.

Tau npaj raws rau kev plees kev txuas nrog lwm tus neeg yog ib tug zoo thawj kauj ruam. Koj yuav tau siv ib co noob, ho, thiab tseem me me defence rau txhua tus insecurities thiab embarrassments, tsis muaj teeb meem li cas yuam deev tej zaum. qhov tseeb, thaum qhib rau rejection – txawm ridicule – yog ib feem tseem ceeb ntawm koj ua ntej. Thaum twg tsis zoo nyob mas, cia li qhia rau koj tus kheej kom ua pa thiab tso nws.

Tamsim no, sim siab rau kev sib txuas rau lwm tus tsuas rau kev lom zem thiab friendship. Yog koj pub koj tus kheej ua ntau gregarious, ntxov los sis lwm hnub koj yuav lawm raws li ib tug neeg uas koj yuav tau attracted. Thaum ntawd taw tes, koj yuav yeej tau tawm koj xav tsam thiab qhia tau rau koj muaj siab ua ke.

Cog lus yuav kinder rau koj lub cev txij no mus, thiab khaw cov notion uas koj tsim nyog muaj Library. Txhua txhua zaug xwb neeg qab yuav kom zoo saib rau lwm. Thiab tsis txhob poob siab txog cov neeg koom tes tsis views txog koj mus sij hawm ntev celibacy: koj tsis tau qhia rau lawv, tab sis txawm hais tias koj ua tau, muaj ntau tus txiv neej yuav tsuas xav tias koj muaj ntawv.

• Pamela Stephenson Connolly yog lub U.S. kuas psychotherapist specialising nyob hauv kev ua niam txiv tsiv siab.

• Yog hais tias koj xav tswv yim ntawm Pamela Stephenson Connolly ntawm kev ua niam txiv raws li, xa peb hais piav qhia txog koj tej kev txhawj xeeb los private.lives@theguardian.com (thov tsis txhob xa attachments). Txhua lub limtiam, Pamela nhro ib qho teeb meem teb, uas yuav tau luam tawm hauv internet thiab loj. Nws regrets tias nws tsis nkag rau hauv tej teb.

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