Na ba da jima'i ga kan 10 shekaru

I haven’t had sex for over 10 years

 

Powered by Guardian.co.ukWannan labarin mai taken “Na ba da jima'i ga kan 10 shekaru” aka rubuta ta hanyar Pamela Stephenson Connolly, for The Guardian a ranar Litinin 21st Disamba 2015 08.00 UTC

Ni 46-shekaru mace wanda ya ba da jima'i ga kan 10 shekaru. Wannan ya taba da shirin, amma ina makale a cikin wani tutur da'irar: Na damu sosai game da yadda zan iya bayyana wannan ga wani m abokin tarayya, kuma da ya fi tsayi a ke, da muni shi samun. Ba na so in rayu da sauran raina ba tare da jima'i da so.

Da yake a rubuce a shirye su gama jima'i tare da wani mutum ne mai kyau mataki na farko. Za ka da ya dauki wani kasada, ko da yake, kuma akwai kananan tsaro ga kowa da rashin kwanciyar hankali, da kuma embarrassments, komai jima'i dandana su zama. a gaskiya, kasancewa a bude domin kin amincewa - ko da izgili - shi ne wani muhimmin ɓangare na aikinka gaba. Lokacin da rashin jin daɗi auku, kawai gaya kanka numfashi kuma jure shi.

A yanzu, kokarin mayar da hankali a kan yin sadarwa tare da wasu kawai ga fun da kuma abota. Idan ka yarda da kanka zama more gregarious, jima ko kuma daga baya za ka halitta hadu da wani wanda za a janyo hankalin. A wannan aya, za ka gaske da su bar ka ta'aziyya yankin da kuma bari ka so kai hanyar.

Alkawalin ya zama kinder to your jiki daga yanzu, kuma rungumi ra'ayi cewa ka cancanci a yi yardar. Kowane mutum guda zai iya zama m zuwa wani. Kuma kada ka damu game da m abokan 'korau views game da dogon lokaci ƙin ɗaure aure: ba ka da ka gaya musu, amma ko da idan ba ka aikata, da yawa mutane za su kawai zaton kana da high nagartacce.

• Pamela Stephenson Connolly ne a {asar Amirka, na tushen psychotherapist kwarewa a jima'i cuta.

• Idan ka so shawara daga Pamela Stephenson Connolly kan jima'i al'amura, aika mana taƙaitaccen bayanin your damuwa to private.lives@theguardian.com (don Allah kada ku aika haše-haše). kowane mako, Pamela nã zãɓen wanda matsalar amsa, wanda za a buga online da kuma a buga. Ta dake damunsa cewa ta ba zai iya shiga cikin sirri rubutu.

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